Marriage Ethics for Singles – Part 4
Misinterpreting Closeness
Also Read: Marriage Ethics for Singles – Part 3
…both the inward thought of every one of them, and the heart, is deep. -Psalm 64:6-
Relationships can be very interesting, because the heart of man is very deep and it is impossible to know what someone else is thinking. Many have fallen victims of misinterpreted relationships and some others have cried of heartbreaks when there was no real heart-to-heart involvement in the first place.
There was this story of a beautiful young lady who worked with a gentle and God-fearing boss. He was so nice to her and would encourage her whenever she needed it. He was the complimentary type; so, it didn’t cost him anything to pay her compliments when she did something exceptional, or even when she looked nice. This young lady, regrettably, misinterpreted his kind gestures and thought he was interested in her.
When he eventually gave her his wedding invitation card, she was very heartbroken. This, among others, is an example of why you must never assume a relationship. That someone is being polite and friendly does not mean that he or she is interested in you. A relationship should be consciously established by both parties. When you feel that someone is getting too close to you or fond of you, it is wisdom to politely ask for a definition of your relationship. This way, there will be no confusion.
Moreover, the biggest clarity you need is from God. So, as long as you are not cleared on both aspects, your relationship still remains platonic (Song of Solomon 8:4). You will not miss it, in the name of Jesus! -FAO
